When you tell people too much about yourself, they feel free to use it in conversation with you… Not knowing that their biases shine through. There is nothing more hurtful than to see your own words come back to haunt you when you least expect it. That’s when we really wish we could kick ourselves. Very often it’s not that people mean to put you down. It’s simply that their conversation reveals what they really think about you…and you happen to have given them ammunition or an extra leg and foot to kick you.
It happens in all spheres. You tell someone about your new job or your new relationship and their conversation reveals that they think you don’t deserve it. You tell someone about a faraway dream and just a simple scoff or a patronising laugh kills your dream ‘deader’ than an accidentally stepped on ant. And in similar fashion, sometimes people don’t know they just crushed your dream.
Truth be told they did not know they had that much power. If they really knew, they might not have done or said what they did. It is also likely that YOU didn’t know they had that power when they did it too. BUT in telling them something more than they needed to know or before they needed to know it, you have given them power to affect you.
So two questions come up here:
- What is too much to tell someone?
- When best can you tell someone something important?
The answer to the first question of what is too much to tell someone is simply this: Anything that you have not yet done your due diligence and built up sufficient MIND ENERGY around is too much information to share. Tell people important things like your dreams and visions; goals and aspirations AFTER you have
- a) clarified for yourself what you really want to Experience
- b) filled your mind with enough images and emotions about the possibility of this thing for you that it feels real enough
- c) taken enough action that supports the idea in your mind that you not only deserve that reality and experience but it is also already on the way
Next you need to decide who is qualified or deserves to know. So the second question comes into play – when can you tell someone something important:
- a) when they have information or service or something contribute to the process of achieving it – and you are ready to receive it
- b) when you are ready to bring it to their world as a sharing or contribution. MW AH Michael Holgate